|One month later...|
|My favorite picture of the month..|
Hospital StayOverall our hospital stay was awesome. The nurses were all very nice; however, we had different nurses every 12 hours so it was hard to create any type of rapport with them. Ellie slept most of the time. She liked to sleep on us -- just like Eli. She was still so tiny and puffy.
Like I mentioned in Ellie's birth story my mom just missed her birth, shortly after my dad and Eli arrived and later my sister and her daughter came. These were our only visitors the entire time we were in the hospital. Wouldn't have it any other way. The first few days with your infant our so special and important that I feel (at least for me) it is best to try to get as much rest as possible while taking care of your baby. That being said, to each their own, right?!?!
Ellie passed her hearing test and the nurse said she was a rock star during her heal prick for state testing (which all came back negative). We did send her each of the two nights to the nursery for a few ours so we could rest easier.
The biggest difference between our hospital stay with Eli and this one with Ellie was that my recovery was SO, SO, SO much easier. I could walk around the room, go to the bathroom on my own, and change Ellie's diaper if needed. Also we had Eli at Center Point in Independence and Eli at St. Luke's East. I definitely liked SLE better. I love their "Rooming In" policy and that the baby gets to stay with you the entire time you are there. However, I did like that at Center Point you get the same day time nurse and night time nurse the whole time you are there.
Mike and I were ready to leave on Saturday at 2:00. Ellie did well in the car on the way home (wish I could still say the same about the car at the 5 week mark!).
1st Week: Welcome Home and Getting to Know our Precious Bundle of JoyOnce we arrived home with Ellie, we knew "life as we knew" was gone. We just didn't know exactly how gone it was. There is no "What to Expect" book for when you have two little ones at home. However, the first and second weeks went very well. Much better than the "survival mode" we were planning for!I love the way Ellie smelt as a brand new baby. I wanted to bottle her scent up so I could keep it for the years to come. I love that she so contently sleeps on my chest and nuzzles into my breast when hungry. I love her chubby little face and her sweet, soft hair. I vow I will never forget these first precious times with my baby girl.
Ellie slept a ton and was pretty content when she was awake. Mike was home so he could help with Eli so that I could focus on getting to know baby Ellie. We saw the Pediatrician this week and Ellie looked fabulous!
The meals that my sister set up for me started to roll in this week! I can't say enough how much I appreciate these meals. What an amazing gift for new parents -- to be fed and to enjoy some time together as a family.
2nd Week: Sleepy Week
Mike was still home this week and him and Eli did lots of fun stuff together! They were off each morning doing a new a fun activity -- gymnastics, splash parks, the pool, feeding buffalo, parks, etc. Ellie stayed home with me and slept. :) I began to worry about how much she was sleeping -- I swear it was like 23 hours a day. Shouldn't complain right? At our two week dr. appointment I asked if this was something to worry about and they assured me she would be more awake in the days to come ('twas true!). We celebrated the Fourth of July at my parents house and had a few neighbors over for fireworks that evening.
3rd Week: Just the Three of Us
We survived Mike going back to work, thanks to my mom coming 3 days to help out!
4th Week: A Whole New Meaning of "Beautiful Bouncing Baby"
The fourth week of sweet miss Ellie's life is the week I sent Mike this email with the subject: I have a feeling...
Sleeping (especially on your chest when she was brand new)
that the next few months are going to suck. Suck. Suck. Suck. I'm not sure we will have much fun at all. BUT, we do have TWO beautiful babies that need us and need us to be kind to them. Lets pray and try are damndest to nurture and love them through this extremely difficult time. 3 months is a short period of time in the scheme of things and we CAN do this!
I am just so thankful I have you and Eli and Ellie to make my life what it is. It may not be all peaches and cream but it sure is great.
I hope one day we can look back at these times and smile. Or at least laugh our asses off thinking about how we didn't blow our brains out! Ha!
It truly became survival mode. Ellie was awake often through out the day and crying. Generally, Eli is a high needs child but now that Ellie is around he is super needy (or maybe I just didn't notice as much when it was just me and him). Mike was back to work and my mom wasn't at my beckon call 24/7. The house went from being super clean to super messy. My anxiety began to rise as Mike was already working some late hours and I didn't know if I could handle two fussy kids on my own.
I made a doctor's appointment and, sure enough, the pediatrician felt that due to 1. the way she like to be held -- facing out, sitting up, tipped forward and 2. a swallowing thing she does when she is not feeding and 3. that when she burps she cries -- she has reflux. Poor babe! We started her on Zantac but had to quickly take her off of it because of a rash she developed. After researching a bit I started to think that maybe Ellie has MSPI - Milk/Soy Protein Intolerance. So currently, I am only eating turkey, pears, squash, potatoes and rice -- the things we do for our children! :) I hope to see an improvement in her behavior soon but know it can take up to four weeks?!?!
More Reflux/Colic Info:
Ellie needs to be constantly bounce when she is awake or she will cry. I know it is okay to let your child cry some but she is still so tiny and I can't take much more than a minute or so. So, if I have to set her down to get Eli something or clean up a spill or put my hair in a pony tail, I do my best to make it quick and get right back to her. Thankfully, depending on the day -- she still sleeps more than she is awake. Her fussiest time is when Mike is home and we can rotate who is bouncing her! Ha!
She doesn't spit up but there is "silent" reflux in which the baby still spits up the food into their esophagus but it doesn't come all the way up to their mouth. I think she must have this. But there is no definitive test or at least we aren't quite there yet.
More Reflux/Colic Info:
Walking around facing out
Swaddle - its a love and hate relationship, we started enforcing it (dispite all my efforts not to) around 4 wks
Play gym - for maybe 5 minutes
Being submerged in warm water - for maybe 5 minutes
Transitioning from inside to outside
Laying flat on the ground
Being left alone for more than a few minutes
Ellie's 1 Month Milestones:
Transitioning from One to Two: My Thoughts:
Breast Feeding and Tandem Nursing:
Ellie caught on to breast feeding right of the bat and has been a champ ever since. I only had slightly sore nipples for a day or two. It has been amazing. So much different from my first go around with Eli. So glad I kept at it with him though and can't believe we have made it to 22 months! Proud of myself. However, part of my does wish that I would have weaned him before Ellie. It is just so sad to see him want milk when I am nursing her. We made a grand attempt to wean him on my birthday weekend when my parents took him for a couple of days but he returned from their house with a high fever and crazy hives and just wanted some milk -- so I gave in after four solid days! We will try again this weekend!
Not sure how long I will keep this category because I know comparing your children is probably not the best thing. It won't compare which baby is "better" in this or that, but more to focus on the fun and interesting ways they are alike and different.
Back to Ellie and the boob :) . She is so different than Eli who could be at the boob all day long. She nurses for 5ish minutes and is done for 2-5 hours. I started to worry a little bit about my supply dropping but she is getting what she needs because she is growing like a weed! On average, she gains around an ounce a day. I must have some fatty milk! :) I know how much she weighs because I attend a breast feeding support group at SLE at 10:00 on Mondays. It is an amazing support for women looking for breast feeding advice and parenting support. I loved it with Eli and have enjoyed it so far with Ellie. It is just so nice to know you are not alone in the journey of motherhood.
Eli and Ellie: A Comparison
The main difference this month is Ellie is already crying -- we didn't notice it get bad with Eli until around 5-6 weeks, Ellie on the other had was 3 weeks. Also, Ellie looked into our eyes right away and Eli didn't until around 4-5 weeks. Eli was an aggressive nurser and wanted to be at the breast all the time while Eli is laid back but nurses fast and pops off herself after about 5 minutes.
They both gained about an ounce a day in the first month -- my little chubbers! Both of them like to be held on their armpits and bounced. Eli and Ellie have the most adorable little mohawks! I think they look alike. They both like to be swaddled and bounced like crazy... And, I love them both to death!